ARE YOU CONSIDERING "SEEKING HELP" ???

In the journey of problem gamblers .... we would only seek help after we HIT ROCK BOTTOM .

BUT for each problem gambler, each ROCK BOTTOM VARIES

As in my story, it took me many many years to HIT that extremely rock bottom, and wanting to seek help.

WHY ? here is a slide that I use in one of my presentation to tell you why

F.B.S = False Belief System

That's why many view us (problem gamblers) as incorrigible, bxxtard, shameless etc etc  

Even till date, no one really see us having a disease of addiction and understand the fact that it can never be cured, but can be arrested and keep under control ... 

But whenever i mentioned this, here's the reply

"BULL SHIT", you are just pure greedy with poor morale values and always wanting easy way out of life !!!

So, for those considering to seek help ....

ESP those who have hidden this disease of addiction so well that no one has yet to found out .....
Those was has been living on lies after lies ...

It is not a Easy Decision ....

No one has really shown what's there in recovery and what are the issues that we are struggling with ....

Here I am to share with you what actually happen when I decided to surrender and wanting the seek help ...

The actual reality in life I have to face then

look at it .... the spider web of nightmares once I decided to come clean and seek help...

Without proper understanding of gambling addiction and a proper support system in place during recovery, it is extremely depressing and even suicidal for the problem gamblers ....

How I felt then ..... this following slide summarized it all

How to continue life like this ..... ???

Talk is easy .... unless you have been there ..... 

That is why i started this blog seven years ago, to start writing my recovery journey ... to share all the struggles, the pain and most importantly the positive side of recovery ... rebuilding relationships and my rebuilding my own family, learning to love them again. 

So what is the initial journey like for me ...

Now walking into the seventh year of my recovery, I am still learning to live life on life's term, changing myself and rebuilding my family ...

DO I STILL BET ..... of course YES. (4d and toto)

Disappointed to hear that ??  it's ok with me ...

Even if I say NO ... NO ONE WOULD BELIEVE ME ANYWAY

Once I came forward, I have already being judged !!! So no point explaining .....

The fact that till today my family is still by my side, my lovely wife and children still adores and loves me greatly after what i did in the past, speaks volume of the effort i put in to change myself and arrest my gambling addiction over the past seven years !!

The road of recovery is a painful journey ... is always under construction and may not be able to complete in this life time ..

BUT trust me, you will definitely enjoy this new journey, with your love ones by your side, sharing with you the pain and also the JOY, the warmth, the laughter as well as the tears  ....

One day at a time, slowly but surely !!!

Start your Recovery Journey Today before your own spider web gets bigger and more complicated like mine.

CHASING LOSSES ????

Last Day of World Cup 2014 ???

SUFFER BIG LOSSES ....... Not end of the world !!!!

PLEASE DON'T TREAT IT AS A WIN OR DIE MISSION FOR TODAY GAME !!!!

For those new to gambling addiction, you may want to know that One feature of compulsive gambling is ‘loss chasing’. 

Loss chasing occurs when a gambler continues to gamble in the face of great losses in hopes of winning their money back. In the disease of gambling addiction, this is the stages of development ..

While someone who is a moderate, social gambler might quit after losing a certain amount of money, a compulsive gambler will keep going, risking losing much more than they can afford in an effort to recover their losses. 

ARE YOU CHASING LOSSES ....

ONLY YOU HAVE THE ANSWER .... BUT DON'T deceive yourself

BUT if you are wondering where you are right now ..... 

READ THIS

"those who participated in “chasing losses” valued the possible reward of winning over the fear of risk " 

Meaning While someone who does not compulsively gamble might be able to weigh the pros and cons of continuing to gamble after losing a significant amount of money, the brain of a compulsive gambler appears to be unable to handle this process.

DEAR PUNTERS ....

Before you place the next bet ..... 

if you have to, need to and want to place the next bet ....

Think about your family, your love ones,

BET SAFELY !!!!

IF YOU ARE THINKING OF YOUR MONTHLY BILLS AND ALL YOUR DEBTS

TRUST ME .... 

YOU SURE WHACK IT TONITE !!!!

“I didn't choose to be a Gambling Addict"

One of my post back in 2009, and I decide to update it as i think it maybe helpful to some after this World Cup 2014

"I did not choose to become gambling addicts."

When I was young, I had many dreams. There were many times people ask me, my parents or relative or teachers or friends ask, 

“What do you want to be when you grow up?”

I really didn’t have elaborate dreams of success. I really didn't know what I want to do or achieved. Most of the time I just simply said normal routine of life lor .... work, families, and a future of dignity and respect.

But no one has ever ask me , 

“Do you want to be a gambling addict when you grow up?”

I didn’t choose to become a GAMBLING addict, and now I am told ... that I cannot choose to stop being a gambling addict..... huh ... wtf ??? 

I was told I have the disease of addiction. They even shown me the American Medical stuff ... DSM IV manual ..... trying to convince me ....

What ?? ...... then I was told again I am not responsible for having this disease, but I am responsible for my recovery. 

I thought having learned that I am just like those sick people with chronic disease and that there is a way of recovery, I can move away from blaming circumstances—or myself —and into living the solution.

I told people around me when they start to attack me on my past again ... "I didn’t choose addiction, but I can choose recovery." .... they all said bullshit you.... you are just pure greedy, unrealistic fool who can't put your feet on the ground, dreaming of winning big and having an easy life through gambling .... this is pure lazy, and lies to cover all your wrong doings !!!

What say you ....... ??? What do you think .....

No matter what they say ..... But one thing for sure ... right from the beginning .... 

“I didn't choose to be a Gambling Addict"

Great prediction by Singapore Govt Agency -NCPG

Thanks to the great prediction of the NCPG in Singapore,!!

After tonight semi final world cup 2014, between Brazil and Germany, 
GERMANY WON 7-1 !!!!

So there is a happy boy with a happy dad .... And happy family??

And Our NCPG is a great soccer punter too!!
Good prediction right from the beginning and now they would have a lot of money to run more of such advertisements when EPL resume ..

To me, this is to teach NCPG and the Singapore Govt a good lesson....

Don't always see us, gambling addicts in such a manner ....

Right from the 1st campaign, "Just One More Bet"

then followed by "Know the Line"

they have been using the same SHAME tactics on us ...


Gambling addiction is a disease and illness and can be treated!!

It is not a moral weakness that you guys can use it to shame us!!

Do you its painful for the family seeing this ... and each time after seeing these ads, some painful, hurtful, remarks will be made to the addicts in recovery ..... 

PLEASE TAKE NOTE OF THIS VERY CLEARLY ..

We LOVE our kids and family too....

Gambling Addicts in recovery needs help ....

Those want to stop and want to try recovery needs encouragement

Family members need support and positive message that they are doing the right thing to support their love ones in recovery and getting proper help and treatment for this disease !!1

NOT SHAME !!!!!!

Now this is the new ad for for NCPG....

Tough love

How many of us really understand what is LOVE ???

And how many of us in recovery really understand what is the meaning of  "TOUGH LOVE" ??

Initially I don't .....

When my parent refuse to bail me out during my rock bottom back in 2006 ....
It's Tough Love

When my family insisted that I go for treatment at IMH .....
It's Tough Love

When they told me to face trial and accept my punishment ....
It's Tough Love 

When my wife is firm with me during the early recovery period ...
It's Tough Love  

When I lost my job, my ego, my pride and was forced to start everything afresh ...
It's Tough Love


Despite not able to trust me fully again ..... Despite not able to forget what I did in the past ..

THEY STAND BY ME ..... ALL THESE WHILE ....

Allowing me time to change and grow up again .....

THIS IS TOUGH LOVE !!!!!

World Cup 2014 - Bet Safely !

World Cup 2014 ..... Have not watch a single game as it has been a tough 5months for me and my family ..

I love soccer betting .... Simply love it.
But when resource are tight, more important to feed the family and pay bills on time.

Now in 2006, the world cup that pushed me down to deep rock bottom (see my story on the right) ... The illegal bets with the Bookie ...
Extremely painful experience.

Illegal bets with the Bookie online started back in euro 1996 with singbet123, then crown888 .. So what's the diff now in 2014??

My dear friends, time has changed ....
Read the news today and you will know ....
Gambling can already mess up one's life ..
Betting with illegal bookie can make it worst ..
Borrowing to continue can be dramatic ..
Now with the police watching you, it can be fatal ......


Stop the spiral if you can ...
If not, at least keep yourself safe ....
And if resources you have are tight, do feed the family and pay the household bills first..

If you need to bet, have to bet and want to bet .......
Bet safely.

In Trouble Times ........

Dear fellow recovery friends

There are many trouble times in our recovery journey .... but do remember this

"In times of adversity, stay calm, deep breath, and don't rush things. Use our limited resources carefully, if not it will turn our situation even worst." 

At the end of the day, our family will suffer the most ...

Don't make the rush things. What will happen will happen one day.