Life On Life's Term

面對它 - - Face it


接受它 - - Accept it


処理它 - - Due With it (To the best of your ability)


放下它 - - Let go of it

Gambling Problems: An Introduction for Behavioral Health Services Providers

Gambling Problems: An Introduction for Behavioral Health Services Providers
Gambling Addiction Vs Problem Gambling

Thursday, March 28, 2019

Rest In Peace

This is my last

I lost my last bet .....

The Addict is dead for now.

Rest in peace.


Last word to share with those that enjoy reading this addict post ....

His last word ....

Your most loved ''drug of your choice''  won't stay loyal to you ...

YNWA .... never EVER believe this bullshit


Rest in Peace.

Wednesday, March 27, 2019

A Good Seaman But Just too bad....

(Updated 9 nov 2019)

In my last 13 years of recovery... life is full of storm ...

Now... still the same.... but I always tell myself this

Smooth Sea Never Made a Skillful Sailor. It's easy to become discouraged and beat myself up over mishaps and when things go wrong.....


Acting in impulse all the time during my active addiction ... so....

It will take some effort to shift one's mind and not easy.... even to take a deep breath and calm down.




A good seaman weathers the storm he cannot avoid, and avoids the storm he cannot weather.


I dropped my ''anchor''. Thought I found my destination..... ..... decided to rebuild my life and found new motivation  .... and I kept going bcos of this motivation!!  I believe in this motivation.... I trust this motivation. 


I hang on to one belief..... ''HOPE''  ... this word gave me the strength....


After today 27 March...... 72 ..... I'm letting go of this HOPE. Maybe being forced to Let Go.... such coincidence I am born in 1972 too.



It's all bullshit.... A bullshit that I believe... 


And left me heart broken and disappointed and this time.... totally broken this time as I really deeply rooted ... but honestly..... perhaps you are right .. I don't deserve 'it'



Never felt this way for a long long time.

Time is running out for me. I'm not fighting it anymore.



You came back... telling me it was ok!  You put on a mask... and deceived me again.... I didn't realised you are the real Addict!  I didn't realised that you are making use of me all these while! 

I believed in you.... trusted you. Start to Place my bet ...... yesssss you make me happy with selective wins... 


But what I didn't realised that .... you are plotting something behind my back..... waiting for the moment that I trusted you fully .... and then bang...

You deceived me.... and betrayed me.

I saw that coming.... but bcos I am addict... and you are my only hope and motivation.... SO I decided to hold on to this hope and trusted you ...


You killed me!! Yet again......


I am devastated...... then a word whisper into you ear.....

"" You deserved it!  This is karma!  No one force you to believe in this hope and motivation!! 

It's your choice and you are fully responsible for your choice"" 

Wednesday, March 13, 2019

Betting Addiction was the 'WORST'

MERSON'S MISERY 

Paul Merson’s ‘life has fallen apart’ after gambling left him ‘like a crack addict’, admits Arsenal legend

TEARFUL Arsenal legend Paul Merson has admitted his "life has fallen apart" after a gambling relapse left him feeling "like a crack addict".
The ex-England soccer ace, now 50, notoriously lost £7 million on his booze, drugs and betting problems in the 1990s.

Paul Merson wiped away tears while talking about his gambling addiction in a new ITV documentary called Harry's Heroes

The Arsenal midfielder lost millions of pounds to his gambling and partying habits during the 1990s.

But he reveals he has been gripped by gambling again in a new ITV documentary due to be shown next week.
Dad-of-seven Merson broke down as he told producers: "I'm struggling with life at the moment, struggling badly.

"Life's fallen apart - gambling...I've just completely lost control, I've completely, again.
"I'm digging a hole - I can't get out of it.
"It's the worst addiction in the world."


Merson, who placed his first bet aged 16 with his Arsenal pay packet, told the programme he was still being given credit and bets by bookies DESPITE his well-known addiction 

He said he had wagered money on football, basketball, snooker, cricket - but never horse racing - and described his urge to bet as "relentless".


He added: "It's so tiring it's unbelievable.
"Mentally draining, just sitting there, thinking where am I going to get more money to do this?
"It's like...it's literally like a crack addict. It is like a crack addict. "Exactly like that.
"But, with crack, you couldn't spend that kind of money on crack, it's impossible. Impossible."


Merson once told how he blew £20,000 in a single weekend and saw his first marriage break down in 1996 because of his problems.
In the ITV show, called Harry's Heroes, he is one of 13 ex-England heroes trying to get fit again under ex-Spurs boss Harry Redknapp.
Merson misses a training camp abroad because of his relapse and is filmed meeting ex-pro Drew Broughton, who has also battled addiction issues.

I'm digging a hole - I can't get out of it.
Paul Merson


Merson told him: "If I'm being honest, I'm struggling at the moment, really am, with the gambling.
"I find it very difficult. I'm back to virtually where I was many years ago.
"Sort of like now I'm just sort of like constantly gambling all the time and I don't like myself. And it's scary.
"My life should be good.
"It should be good. It should be like, two lovely kids, a lovely wife and my life should be good.
"And it's literally going like that and I mean quickly and worryingly.
"And in the cab on the way here I broke down. I've had enough."
He added: "It's got to that stage now. There's got to be something wrong with me.
"I've been in treatment, I've done it a few times. I've been to Arizona.

"You know what, it was unbelievable at the time. It was unbelievable what they did.
"And that's what scares me that I still went back and done what I've done now."

Tuesday, February 5, 2019

Deep Rooted

(Updated on 7Nov 2019)
Addiction is like deep rooted tree...



Yes .... you are poisonous... and I am deeply addicted to you .
You gave me Hope every day .....
You kept me going every day .....

I'm grateful  ..... I hv tried my very best and really done whatever I could within the beat of my ability...


I dun think I can ever pull out the roots...
Rooted deep into the ground....
You are my hope....


Even till the one last bet.....
You will definitely be my last.... bet.

And Again I lost  ...... YES I lost big time and I lost everything. 

You told me it's a sure win bet.. you told me you will back me up.. you told me you wld be there for me ....

All fucking lies!  Fucking full of lies!! 

You betrayed me when I'm deeply rooted to you... fcking shit! ! 


Just bcos I'm an addict???

Tuesday, June 26, 2018

World Cup 2018

Coming to the end of group stages soon...

By the end of today fixtures.... Argentina maybe heading home in the next available flight!!!

Football God Messi not answering any prayers... hahahaha

So so did i bet on this world cup 2018??

Need to ask??? Being Honest !!!!

YESSSSSSSSS

Wtf??? Why am i betting???

Yes wtf I am indeed betting.... what's new? World cup leh......

Win or Lose???

Need to ask??? Being Honest ...

YES.... lost !!!!

How much????? Hahahaha wtf ... don't ask leh.... very paisay and embarrassing. ...

But i know the reason liao!!!!!!

I pray to the wrong God of Football!!!!

Hahahaha

Monday, April 30, 2018

Hanging In there......

No one seems to understand what i am going through ....

But is it important that people understand  me ... Or ... is it more important for me to understand what others is going through.... 

Especially those suffering because of me??
Really. .. i am coming to a point .. that it doesn't  matter anymore how i feel. No one cares... or shld i say ... Why shld anyone care since I am the ''bad'' guy


AND
I am the cause of everything !!
No Bennie ... = No trouble ...... maybe

But I still believe that ......
My Existence in this life  can still contribute alot to many other people ...... especially  those i can't see ...

So ... I am going to just Hang In There.

The pressure is building up everywhere ..... everyone is taking turn to have a go at me.... I always tell myself, whatever given to me .... i will take it and give my best in everything i do, every role i played. Nothing less.

I will Trust Boss and Hang in there. ... I get what i deserved.


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Life will not stop just bcos we can't get what we want and the way we want it.
We need to continue with life and work within whatever limitations that life has given us.

It all started bcos of me..... I can't go back and change the beginning but i can change the Ending !!


Thursday, March 22, 2018

One Day @ A Time.

No matter how hard i tried.... it seems never good enough for everyone.

But that doesn't  stop me from believing .... that doesn't stop me from loving ... and that doesn't stop me from continuing doing what i have to on a daily basis.

The whole world can continue to pick on me.... continue to doubt me.
i am already disqualified i know that.

Givee me shit and slowly i will use them to build a garden...
Push me to a corner. ... i will fight back slowly to regain my ground.
If i fall i will get up and fight. I Won't Run !!! It will be just too Tiring 



I will stay focus.... and very focus esp for 2018!!! Bcos there is going to be alot of changes and transition

Life will not stop just bcos we can't get what we want and the way we want it.
We need to continue with life and work within whatever limitations that life has given us.

It all started bcos of me..... I can't go back and change the beginning but i can change the Ending !!!

Im the cause of everything.  So i wont complain and i wont pick on anyone or anything.
I will push on ... One Day @ A Time. This is not how my story is going to End.



Doing my best in everything i do and keep believing. One day .... all things will fall in place.... But not how i want it to be... But how BOSS  has put in place for me!!

Bring on the STORMS !!!! 

I will maneuver around them and continue to dance in the rain.

Recovery is always under construction .... 

One day At A time, Easy Does it and Turn it Over.

When You focus on "Problems", you will get more Problems

BUT

When You focus on "Possibilities", you will get more Opportunities!!

Stay Positive and Stay Focus.