Monday, June 23, 2014

Tough love

How many of us really understand what is LOVE ???

And how many of us in recovery really understand what is the meaning of "TOUGH LOVE" ??

Initially I don't .....

When my parent refuse to bail me out during my rock bottom back in 2006 ....
It's Tough Love

When my family insisted that I go for treatment at IMH .....
It's Tough Love

When they told me to face trial and accept my punishment ....
It's Tough Love

When my wife is firm with me during the early recovery period ...
It's Tough Love

When I lost my job, my ego, my pride and was forced to start everything afresh ...
It's Tough Love

Despite not able to trust me fully again ..... Despite not able to forget what I did in the past ..

THEY STAND BY ME ..... ALL THESE WHILE ....

Allowing me time to change and grow up again .....

THIS IS TOUGH LOVE !!!!!

Saturday, June 21, 2014

World Cup 2014 - Bet Safely !

World Cup 2014 ..... Have not watch a single game as it has been a tough 5months for me and my family ..

I love soccer betting .... Simply love it.
But when resource are tight, more important to feed the family and pay bills on time.

Now in 2006, the world cup that pushed me down to deep rock bottom (see my story on the right) ... The illegal bets with the Bookie ...
Extremely painful experience.

Illegal bets with the Bookie online started back in euro 1996 with singbet123, then crown888 .. So what's the diff now in 2014??

My dear friends, time has changed ....
Read the news today and you will know ....
Gambling can already mess up one's life ..
Betting with illegal bookie can make it worst ..
Borrowing to continue can be dramatic ..
Now with the police watching you, it can be fatal ......

Stop the spiral if you can ...
If not, at least keep yourself safe ....
And if resources you have are tight, do feed the family and pay the household bills first..

If you need to bet, have to bet and want to bet .......
Bet safely.

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

In Trouble Times ........

Dear fellow recovery friends

There are many trouble times in our recovery journey .... but do remember this

"In times of adversity, stay calm, deep breath, and don't rush things. Use our limited resources carefully, if not it will turn our situation even worst."

At the end of the day, our family will suffer the most ...

Don't make the rush things. What will happen will happen one day.

Help For Problem Gamblers in Singapore

1) National Addiction Management Centre
Gambling Helplines:
1800-X-GAMBLE (1800-9-426253)
1800-6-668-668
http://www.nams.org.sg

2) WE CARE Community Service
Helpline: 6471 5346
admin@wefoundation.org.sg
http://www.wecare.org.sg/

3) Thye Hua Kwan Moral Society
Helpline : 6337 1201
http://www.thkms.org.sg/

Debts Repayment Issues
1) One Hope Centre
Helpline : +65 6547 1011 (9am to 6pm)
http://onehopecentre.org/

2) Credit Counseloring Singapore
Hotline 1800 CALL CCS (1800 2255 227).
Mondays–Fridays, 9am–6pm
http://www.ccs.org.sg/

Gambling And Depression

Although not an addiction, depression is commonly associated with problem gambling.

Depression can both result from problem gambling and exacerbate it. The problem gambler may experience a strong desire to gamble during times of depression.

Symptoms of depression include:

1. Depressed mood most of the day
2. Diminished interest in pleasure
3. Significant weight changes
4. Difficulty in sleeping
5. Fatigue or loss of energy
6. Feelings of guilt or worthlessness
7. Diminished ability to think or concentrate

Alcohol or drug use may also occur in conjunction with gambling. After consuming excessive alcohol or drugs the problem gambler is drawn to gamble. After losing money gambling, the gambler feels an urge to consume alcohol or drugs.

AM I A COMPULSIVE GAMBLER ??

1. Did you ever lose time from work due to gambling?

2. Has gambling ever made your home life unhappy?

3. Did gambling ever affect your reputation?

4. Have you ever felt remorse after gambling?

5. Did you ever gamble to get money with which to pay debts or otherwise solve financial difficulties?

6. Did gambling cause a decrease in your ambition or efficiency?

7. After losing, did you feel you must return as soon as possible and win back your losses?

8. After a win, did you have a strong urge to return and win more?

9. Did you often gamble until your last dollar was gone?

10. Did you ever borrow to finance your gambling?

11. Have you ever sold anything to finance your gambling?

12. Were you reluctant to use gambling money for normal expenditures?

13. Did gambling make you careless of yourself or your family?

14. Have you ever gambled longer than you had planned?

15. Have you ever gambled to escape worry and trouble?

16. Have you ever committed or considered committing an illegal act to finance gambling?

17. Has gambling caused you to have difficulty in sleeping?

18. Have arguments, disappointment, or frustrations caused you to gamble?

19. Have you had an urge to celebrate any good fortune with a few hours of gambling?

20. Have you ever considered self-destruction as a result of your gambling?

*--Seven or more positive responses suggest pathologic gambling.Reprinted with permission. --*

12 Step Recovery Program

1) We admitted we were powerless over gambling - that our lives had become unmanageable.

2) Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to a normal way of thinking and living.

3) Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of this Power of our own understanding.

4) Made a searching and fearless moral and financial inventory of ourselves.

5) Admitted to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6) Were entirely ready to have these defects of character removed.

7) Humbly asked God (of our understanding) to remove our shortcomings.

8) Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

9) Make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10) Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

11) Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12) Having made an effort to practice these principles in all our affairs, we tried to carry this message to other compulsive gamblers.

Gambling Addiction - My Last Bet

Life On Life's Term

Gambling Problems: An Introduction for Behavioral Health Services Providers