Things happened

Everything happened for a reason

Be it spiritual or religious. .

You reap what you sow.. as stated in the bible...

Or be it karma...  as in buddhism..

If it happened to me... it just means that "I deserve it!! No more no less!!"

If it didnt happen to me... it just means that "I dont deserve it !!" Or time is not ripe. ...

Good things happen ...
Bad things happen...

So if I deserve it... it will happened.

No need to run..
No need to chase...
No need to hide...

No matter what happened to me...
"ALL I NEED TO DO... IS TO

STAY HUMBLE..
STAY GRATEFUL..
AND KEEP MY FEET on the ground.!"

Stau focus on tday..
One day at a time.

Love Oneself

Before you can be good to others and start to love others...

You must learn to be good to your and love yourself....

THis iS VERY IMPORTANT IN RECOVERY. ...

Simple Routine that helps my Recovery

In my recovery.... the following routine help me alot of the past 2years..

Perhaps you could find 1-2 useful skills that could help in your recovery too.

1) For those that i have harmed, and money that beyond my ability to return......

I will help them with a prayer of blessings on a daily basis.

2) For all the things that I can't change ......

I will learn to accept them and have the courage to change the things I can...

AND THE UTMOST IMPORTANCE IS TO CHANGE MY ATTITUDE IN LIFE AND NEVER TO RESPONSE IN ANGER.

3) For those things that I desire and unable to get....4D AND TOTO that I missed..

I will stay grateful and contented with what I have.

4) For the excess "luggages" that im unable to let go... guilt, shame..

I will see thru it and learn to let go abit at a time... by focusing on just tday.

Before I could repair or repay anything, or make any amends..

I must first repent and reconstruct myself..

I must be well..
I must be happy...
I must pick myself up again...

No more quick fix solutions...
No more response in anger...

It takes time....

And must be from the heart...
Not for the show...

And it must be for yourself. . !!!

Anger

Anger is never a clever response..

In recovery... I was filled with so much anger...

Initially I was anger with people places and things... then I realized that I was even more anger with myself...

There was so many things to deal with in recovery. .

Stopping gambling
Dealing with debts
Repairing relationships
Getting back to work
Facing all the "talks", finger point
Handling shame and guilt
Coping with urges...

And so many other thingy happening around us....

So at such high stress level.. how to stay cool and not lose our temper when being poke...

Not possible? ?

Many at times I thought to myself..

"I have already stopped gambling! ! Why cant they be grateful for that... !!"

......

Think again.....

Who should be the one that should be grateful. .. "they"??  ..

There are  still people ard you..
They are still staying your side. .

The damages, pain that I have caused..... wont just go away bcos I have stopped gambling...

Won't "angry responses" make it worst...... ????

It is not that we dont response when being abused....

Just don't response in ANGER..

don't say anything if whatever you say is not gona be nice...

Just keep silent if unable to smile..

Your effort in not responding in anger and saying ugly remarks  will be a very strong foundation you need in recovery. ..

It will require alot of effort.

Take it easy, one day @ a time.

Beginning of a New Chapter ...

Hi all

It has been a long time since I wrote on this blog ....

Many wonder what happen to me .... am I still alive ..

Did I go back my destructive way ....

No matter what happened ... It's over and done with .... Not important anymore.

It's heartening for me to know that there is still many that read my past post...

So what why is there a 2 years gap .....



I have invested the past two years in my family ....

Recovery within the family...

Learning to be a good husband, good father and also a good son ..


HOW ?? ...... I began that with

1) learning to listen ... and not talking all the time ..

2) not to lose my temper, by appreciating all little things around me ..



1 .5 years gone .... and I think I done pretty well .. bcos people around me is smiling all the time

And I am enjoying myself daily ....



Still the basic principle ... ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Stay grateful, focusing on just today and stay positive in all situation.

Recovery is a JOURNEY ..... not a DESTINATION.

I am the driver and all the passengers in my car is also enjoying the journey, smiling, joking, chatting, and loving each other ....

And that's my job as the driver ....

Keep my passenger safe ....

Keep the ride smooth ....

Listen to my passengers .... giving them only advise they need at appropriate time...


And do my best to make it a enjoyable and fun ride ....

If tired ..... stop the car, take a break, have a meal and then regroup again before the next drive ...



Stay tune for more ...