My name is Bennie and I am a Gambling Addict. The road to recovery is always under construction .... Stop gambling is just the beginning of a painful journey .... Recovery is not about stopping gambling.Its about changing oneself to deal with life. Life on Life's term just Sucks !!!! The only thing I can do today is to change myself .... Accept the current stage of life I am in and deal with it with the best of my ability. One Day at A time. keep the faith , keep trying
Life On Life's Term
接受它 - - Accept it
処理它 - - Due With it (To the best of your ability)
放下它 - - Let go of it
Monday, September 22, 2014
Do I have any achievements in Life ???
Good for nothing .... just gamble our life away .....
Really ????
Back in 2006, the year I surrender myself for treatment and punished for my gambling related crimes.....
I received this special medal from the Department Of Navy, US ...
And I am a Singaporean, then Serving my country Navy since 1991 ....
What is this medal all about ?? In Summary....
NAVY ACHIEVEMENT MEDAL
The Navy and Marine Corps Achievement Medal is awarded to members of the Armed Forces, including members of Reserve components on active or inactive duty, of the grade of lieutenant commander/major and below.
The award shall be presented for meritorious service or achievement in combat or non-combat circumstances based on sustained performance or specific achievement of a superlative nature, and shall be of such merit as to warrant more recognition than is possible by a fitness report or performance evaluation, but which is not significant enough to justify a Navy and Marine Corps Commendation Medal or higher.
Professional achievement that merit the NA must:
(a) Clearly exceed that which is normally required or expected, considering the individual's grade or rate, training, and experience, and
(b) Be an important contribution of benefit to the United States and the Naval Service.
Leadership Achievement that merit the NA must:
(a) Be noteworthy
(b) Be sustained so as to demonstrate a high state of development or, if for a specific achievement, be of such merit as to earn singular recognition for the act, and
(c) Reflect most creditably on the efforts of the individual toward the accomplishment of the unit mission.
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SO .... Not a big deal to many, and also not many know about this.... it was given to me in simple ceremony in presence of a few big bosses ....
BUT it was something I am extremely proud of .... being recognised by other country professionals ....
My own country has taken away and taken back all my medals ...... discredited me from all the hard work and good work, the great achievements I have given to the Navy, especially in the SAF DAY PARADE 2002 ... taken away everything, all my achievements ..... BUT NOT THIS MEDAL ...
During my trials in court ..... all the bosses that I have served ...... no one dared to write even a character reference for me ... ONLY ONE KIND BOSS ... willing to pen down a good reference for me, which even today, I am extremely grateful for ....
THE REST OF THEM distanced away from me because all holding very very high posts .......
But now in my real life .... Who cares.....
no one would remember any of my achievements ...
I AM JUST A GAMBLING ADDICT ...... A SCUMBAG to MANY that has borrowed me money .......
So what is the purpose of writing this ......
what do I want to prove ????
8 years in recovery ..... tough and rough road ..... I really took a long time to pick myself up and find my feet again..... to kick start my life from point 0 ..... with no saving ... no help .... in a very unforgiving society in Singapore..... No matter what is my qualifications, what was my previous achievements , the medals that I have ....
No one will give me a chance .... if I don't give myself a chance ...
No one will bother after my past achievements .... but these achievements reminded me of my own strengths ... and what I am capable of doing ......
Keep Going ......
Keep Trying .....
ONE DAY ...... ONE DAY ...... IT WILL HAPPEN
SOMEONE WILL RECOGNIZE THIS MEDAL AND WILL BE OFFERING THIS GUY WITH THE MEDAL ANOTHER BIG BREAK IN LIFE .....
Sunday, September 21, 2014
Progress
Slow progress is better than no progress...
No matter how slow in recovery ....
Even if you are still gambling ...
Even if you cant stop completely ...
It is ok ....
As long as you are trying ...
Stop destructive gambling gambling and stop all illegal gambling activities and borrowing first .... that's important to preserve your life and keep your family ...
Then take it slowly.....
one step at a time ....
No matter what ...
Just keep on the path of recovery ...
Keep the faith
Keep going