In Life....... Keep Trying

Exams drama time for all students and parents as well in the month of Oct and Nov in Singapore. 

No time to get panic...
No point scolding, screaming shouting..
No time crying and breaking down if not prepared. ...

Just like in Recovery... you just need to lift yourself up, accept the current state of life, face the crisis/adversity which we have created for ourselves, deal with it to the best of our abilities and keep going. 

It's All we can do ..... KEEP TRYING

Life Since 2014 ....

Dear Friends

Have not be writing for awhile as I thought perhaps it is about time that I forget about my past and don't let it hold me hostage .... And moving on from being a gambling addict !!!

I tried many times to write ..... but end up deleting the post .... seems to be frustrated with what I am writing .....

But is it Possible for me to lead a Gambling Free life since ...... YES .... and of course NO !!!

(i am still buying hope in toto and 4d hahaha)

Back then....

In the beginning of recovery back in end 2006, I TRIED .... and for 3 years .... isolate myself from all gambling activities and related news  ..... So any changes in my life ..... NOPE ... except for staying Stop,

I BECAME MORE frustrated ... more angry with people places and things in my country .

I know I am more capable of doing big things and earning a much respectable pay .....

But no longer possible in a place like here. It's time really to let go of the aspiration of another big break in life..... hahaha again i might not be able to handle this Big Break!!

Over last 2 years or so .... i have this awakening and suddenly i realisee i already had that breakthrough in life.... 

My Family = My Everything.

Since 2014 to now Sep 2016...  I focus on rebuilding and strengthening my relationship with my love ones at home... And with my parents too!!! At the same time, focusing on removing the letter "A" in me .... ANGER !!

10 years on.... slow progress.... and recovery is a slow process......and is forever 

But it has been keeping me safe and sane.

So why am i updating  now after missing for 2years?? 

Some thought i went back to gambling ..... 

Some thought i fully recover .....

Doesnt matter what others think abt me and wat i am doing.... 

I am still rebuilding my life and Yes ... for the time being .... I AM STILL SAFE ...

I am aware of the relapse process far too well and I am not going to fall into the same trap..

And all it takes to start the process of relapse .......  is just a simple white lie !!!!

Oh yess.... one more thing... 

Even if you are right ....try seeing life from my side ... 

Why Recovery is so Scary

Why is it so difficult for a compulsive gambler to seek help ???

Why is it that he/she needs to be at rock bottom stage before willing to ask for help ???

Mind you .... many enter recovery on the pretext of

"I AM SEEKING TREATMENT NOW FOR MY ADDICTION. ... SO NOW HELP ME WITH MY DEBTS !!''

Take a look at Me when i entered recovery 10 years ago (in mth of Sept too)

It is completely overwhelming. ...... and the first thought that came to my mind when i saw this "spider web" of my current life..... was "let's END THIS once and for all.....

Fortunately a stranger turned up and saved me from ending my life and thus embark on my journey of recovery.

To the family members of a gambling addict...

It's really overwhelming to surrender ourselves ..... many of us can't even look at ourselves in the mirror ..... what a scumbag and bastard we have been .....

If you really want your love ones to seek help ... do give them the support and care they need ..

Meanwhile, remember to protect yourself first .... use tough love and not be manipulated by us, the addicts, yet again.